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Real stories from real people navigating the beautiful mess of non-monogamy. From first-date butterflies to jealousy spirals and everything in between—these writers are sharing their unfiltered journeys so you can learn, relate, and feel a little less alone in yours.
Dating Newbs and Not So Nonmonogamous Partners
Is "brutal polyamory" the answer?
How To Catch a Unicorn
Dismantling power dynamics and biphobia in non-monogamy
Handling Rejection With Grace
More connection means more rejection in non-monogamy. Learn why neurodivergent people feel it most — and how to handle it with grace.
When the Desire for Romance & Relationship Makes Casual Connections Lackluster in Non-Monogamy
What happens when you crave deep romance but only have casual connections? One writer explores why the need for love can make casual sex feel hollow.
Women are expected to be “cool” about everything
Cool with bad communication. Cool with being deprioritized. Cool with everything. And if you're not? You're difficult. Enough of that.
The Confusing Conversations about 'Going with the Flow' in Polyamory & Non-Monogamy
Toxic positivity in our community invalidates difficult or hurtful experiences in casual connections instead of making space for them. Do we ALWAYS need to spea
Reflections From My First EXXXOTICA
Speaking at EXXXOTICA revealed a glaring gap in lifestyle spaces: real consent education. Nicole reflects on what she found — and what she plans to change.
How the Six Pillars of Mindful Dating Can Transform Your Love Life
I’m one of those freaks who genuinely enjoys dating. Not because I typically get what I want (believe me, I don’t), but because I see dating as a transforma
Why Women Don’t Have to Wait to Be Chosen
Both of her most meaningful non-monogamous relationships started because she made the first move. On choosing desire rather than waiting to be claimed.
Dating Separately vs. Dating Together
Choosing whether to date together or separately shapes how autonomy, jealousy, and intimacy move through a non-monogamous relationship. Here's the real.
What is Symbiosexuality?
Have you heard of the term “symbiosexual”? If you haven’t, I wouldn’t blame you - it’s a new microlabel that only emerged in the last year. Below I explain what
what tinder taught me about specificity and getting what i want
Written by: Tamar Simone Weir Art by Audrey Jones This blog today will investigate how my many random, hilarious, and weird tinder dates have helped me in gett
Rejection Isn’t An Insult - It’s Respect.
I've noticed that people are more fearful of rejection (whether giving it or receiving it) than we used to be. Personally, I find it more insulting if someone l
When Being Reflective, Ethically Aware, and Sexually Literate Makes You Invisible in Dating
When Being Reflective, Ethically Aware, and Sexually Literate Makes You Invisible in Dating
Confession: I Dated an AI Woman After a Breakup in 2024 — Still Am- I’m Not Alone
One writer turned to an AI companion after heartbreak in 2024 and found he wasn't alone. A candid essay on grief, loneliness, and the blurry edges of intimacy.
Are Most Non-Monogamous People In Western Society Emotionally Unavailable?
Are Most Non-Monogamous People In Western Society Emotionally Unavailable?
Having More Partners Doesn’t Mean You’re “Winning”
If your partner is swimming in dates/matches/partners while you're struggling to even get a text back on dating apps, it's likely you'll have some complicated f
My Top 5 Red Flags in Polyamorous Relationships
Leanne Yau's top 5 red flags when you start dating a polyamorous person, from poor time management to blaming other partners for their own decisions.
Polyamory And Impulse Control
I don't know which polyamorous bisexual needs to hear this (I did!), but you do not have to date every single person that you're attracted to!
Incompatibilty Doesn’t Make Someone A Bad Person
Someone's time/energy levels due to their other commitments and relationships could be completely understandable and explainable, AND the time/energy they have
Picking Partners in Polyamory
Polyamory does not mean lowering your standards. Being selective about who you date — choosing communicative, accountable people — changes everything.
The “humiliationship” proves everyone is afraid of vulnerability (especially Gen Z)
A humiliationship is a situationship that has you so wrapped up it feels humiliating. A therapist explains why the term shows Gen Z's fear of vulnerability.
It’s OK to Keep Things Casual
Not every sexual connection has to become romantic. Leanne Yau makes the case for letting a friends-with-benefits dynamic stay exactly what it is.
Casual Dating Is Not Polyamory
Dating around while secretly hoping one person wins your monogamy is not polyamory. Leanne Yau draws the line and explains why honesty is non-negotiable.
Baby I’m Worth it
Lately, I’ve been noticing a theme weaving through my conversations, coaching sessions, and what I’ve been watching; the complicated, often unspoken dance b
Dating Newbies in Polyamory
If you are a more experienced polyamorous person dating a newbie, your responsibility is to give them the space to figure stuff out and try things at a reasonab
Polyamory Doesn’t Mean Lower Standards
Polyamory means you can have more fluidity and flexibility in your relationships and be more open to different types of connection, AND it's okay to have standa
In Polyamory, It’s Okay To Ask For More
Friendly reminder that it's okay to want more time with your partner or to ask for regular dates, and being polyamorous doesn't change that. You’re allowed to d
The Best Dating Advice I Ever Got
Worn out by polyamorous dating? One piece of timeless wisdom reframes it all: one truly compatible partner beats several wrong ones every time.
You Don’t Need To Be In Love To Deserve Good Sex.
PSA: You can have sex without love without needing to sacrifice boundaries and respect. You deserve good sex even when you're not in a romantic relationship.
Polyamorous Dating Can Be Exhausting - And That’s OK
Are you embracing polyamorous dating and feeling excited about all the love and connection I'm about to have in my life, but... realising that dating means meet
Casual Sex Is Not Inherently Exploitative
Casual sex is not inherently exploitative, and I am so done with the idea that if a man comes up to you and tells you that he wants sex with you but not a relat
On The “Predatory Polyamorist” Stereotype
Newsflash: polyamorous people tend to date other polyamorous people, because why would anyone want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t accept the w
What is Symbiosexuality? A Guide to This Emerging Microlabel
Symbiosexuality means being attracted to a couple's dynamic, not the individuals. Here's what this emerging microlabel means and who it fits.
Don’t Date Just To Be In A Relationship
You should date someone because you want to be with them specifically. Not just because you want to be in a relationship (or multiple relationships). Good partn
On Putting “Polyamorous” In Dating Profiles
A lot of people read "polyamorous" in a dating profile and think "single until I convince them to be monogamous for me". If you are partnered AND polyamorous, a
Are You Dating a Polyamory Newbie?
Do not be your partner's only resource for information about polyamory If you're the person who's more experienced and they're a newbie. Not just because that c
Sex and Romance Can Be Separate
I don't know who needs to hear this, but you don't have to be in a romantic relationship with someone to negotiate a respectful, considerate, boundaried, and co
Polyamory Requires Compatibility, Not Just Chemistry
People seriously underestimate the amount of things that need to line up for a relationship to work. You may have chemistry, but no compatibility. Or you may lo
Hinge Just Ruined It For Polyamorous People
Are you a @hinge user? Have you suddenly noticed a spike in attention from monogamous people you don’t want to match with as a non-monogamous person? That’s bec
Why You Are Responsible For Your Situationship
Situationships take two. If you're staying in a dynamic that hurts you, you're helping sustain it. A candid take on personal responsibility in ambiguous.
Don’t Be A ‘Pick Me Polyamorist’
A ‘Pick Me’ is generally someone who belongs to a marginalised group but tries to appeal to more privileged groups at the expense of their own community. A good
Why Monogamy Is An Instant Unmatch
I instantly unmatch when people tell me they're monogamous on dating apps. Even though “polyamorous” is literally the first word in my profile, I still get rand
Dating Couples? Here Are 5 Red Flags To Watch Out For
Being approached as a potential third? These five red flags reveal when a couple is looking to objectify you rather than genuinely include you as an equal.
Why Can’t I Do Polyamory For Love AND Sex?
Have you heard people tell you that polyamory is about love and not sex? Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand where these people are coming from – polyamory is
It’s Fine To Fuck Your Friends
PSA: Having sex with your friends can be a mutually rewarding, fulfilling, and intimate bonding experience. With honest and vulnerable communication about inten
“Casual” Can Be Anything But
When I refer to casual relationships, I refer to them in the colloquial sense of sexual, but not romantic. But those connections, for me, are anything but casua
Just Because You Love Your Partner, It Doesn’t Mean Others Will
Hard truth: just because you like your partner, it doesn’t mean other people will. Don’t assume that just because someone is into you, that they will be into yo
Polyamorous Single People Don’t Get Taken Seriously
Me, polyamorous: "I'm single right now, but I want a polyamorous relationship, and you need to be okay with that to date me."
You Might Be Using ‘Ambiamorous’ Wrong
Dating app life hack: not everyone who says they are "open to monogamy and non-monogamy" is actually ambiamorous. Most people who say they are open to both rela
Rejection is Rejection, even if you're Polyamorous.
You don't have to be single and monogamous to feel the sting of rejection.
We love enthusiastic participation
Half-in doesn't cut it anymore. Enthusiastic participation — showing up fully — isn't a bonus in relationships. It's the bare minimum.
Money, money, money, money!
Race, entrepreneurship, and dating walk into a bar. The complicated feelings that come up when money becomes part of the relationship equation.
ENM, Poly, Open - Oh My!
ENM, open, polyamory — they're not the same thing. Here's a clear, no-jargon breakdown of what each actually means and how they differ.
Big girls need love, too
The internet has opinions about plus-size people and desire. Those opinions are wrong. Big girls deserve love, lust, and everything in between.
"Emotional (Un)Availability"
Why are women expected to be endlessly emotionally available while their own needs go ignored? A real conversation about the double standard.
Bonus Content: Dating Games
Mind games, mixed signals, and manipulation — the full debrief on what actually goes on beneath the surface of modern dating culture.
Bad date or covert narcissist?
Bad week? Try a date with someone who gaslights, negs, and plays games. Here's how to tell if you met a jerk or a covert narcissist.
Is he passionate or controlling?
Intensity can look like love — until it doesn't. Here's how to tell the difference between passion and control before things get dangerous.
Oh, you just got out of a relationship?
He broke up with her two days ago and spent the whole date talking about her. A cautionary tale about dating people who aren't actually ready.
Background checks for errrbody
You invited a stranger home and know nothing about them. Time to fix that. Why background checks should be non-negotiable in modern dating.
He's just not that into you
You got ghosted. It stings. Here are the signs you probably missed — and how to read the room before you invest in someone who's already checked out.
Real talk: Is wanting kids a red flag?
Wanting kids isn't a red flag — but ignoring incompatibility around it is. Here's the honest conversation ENM daters need to have upfront.
Professional Projectionists 101
A man called well-traveled women red flags. The mental gymnastics people do to project their insecurities onto others is truly Olympic-level.
Please don't call me chocolate
A Black woman shares the racial fetishization and cultural insensitivity red flags to watch for on dating apps — and why she unmatch the instant she gets the.
Red Flags for Over 35
Turning 35 changed how one woman sees dating. From refusing gender roles to dropping people-pleasing habits, here are the things she is joyfully leaving.
What we're NOT gonna do this year...
Situationships, self-abandonment, and bad communication habits — here's the dating baggage we're leaving at the door this year. For real.
ENM, Open, Poly — words matter
Someone calling themselves non-monogamous on an app does not mean they practice it ethically. Five red flags that reveal the language is being used without.
Be safe this cuffing season
Cuffing season makes it easy to settle for the wrong person. Here's how to stay safe, spot red flags, and avoid covert narcissists this winter.
What’s Wrong with Unicorn Hunting?
NOTE: Unicorn hunting is when a couple seeks out another person, often a bi woman for a cis/het couple (M/F) to have a s-xual relationship with. The term most o
What Do I Ask A Potential New Partner?
Traditional dating within a monogamous framework has somewhat of a script to work with . . . Do you have/want children? Are you a smoker? What’s your attitude t
Guest Blog: Is Dating Harder for Men in Non-Monogamy?
Non-monogamy makes dating harder for men! No. Let me reiterate that: no, it doesn’t.This is directed squarely at the largely cishet men so many of us have come
So You Want To Be A Unicorn: A Guide to Dating Polyamorous Couples
I've written about unicorn hunting in the past, but I realised that I've never made a resource for people who self-identified as unicorns. So, here is a guide f
Rejection is a Gift
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Let’s Talk About ‘Revenge Dating’ in Polyamory
I’ve come across a toxic phenomenon in the polyamory community which I would like to call “revenge dating”, which is when you date someone for the sole purpose
Why You Should Disclose Polyamory in Your Dating Profiles
Dating apps are a raging hellscape as they are, but especially more so when you are polyamorous. Of the most commonly used dating apps, OKCupid is the only one
Slut-Shaming in the Polyamorous Community
One of the things that people in the polyamorous community love to talk about is how polyamory is not about sex, but about the loooove. I fully understand why t
Why Unicorn Hunting Doesn’t Work
Imagine you met someone, A, and you became good friends. You got along great, had a lot of stuff in common, and you had a feeling that your friendship would las
COVID Brings Back Courting
What to do? Consider risk management, who our choices affect, and perhaps we can embrace a more mature attitude toward developing relationships. Something that
Guest Blog: Chemistry vs. Compatibility
Chemistry and compatibility are tricky things in relationships. Whether you’re mono or non-mono, you’ll likely come across someone you are super compatible with
When to Disclose
When do I tell someone I'm interested in that I'm polyamorous? I see this question posed a lot in online forums when the topic of dating is up for discussion. M
