UPDATED Nonmonogamous Relationship Agreements Checklist
Categories, dialogue prompts, and examples of agreements to design your relationship structure and align expectations.
Laura Ramadei
Certified Sexologist; Intimacy, Relationship, & Nonmonogamy Coach
Laura is passionate about helping you dismantle shame, build connection, and embrace radical authenticity in love, sex, and selfhood. Specialization in desire discrepancy, nonmonogamy, queer identity, and kink.
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Certified Sexologist; Intimacy, Relationship, & Nonmonogamy Coach
Laura is passionate about helping you dismantle shame, build connection, and embrace radical authenticity in love, sex, and selfhood. Specialization in desire discrepancy, nonmonogamy, queer identity, and kink.
Book Session20 articles by Laura Ramadei
IDENTITY
KINK
The Erotics of Almost Hating Someone
On enemies-to-lovers, queer desire, and the fine line between eroticizing jealousy and letting competition win the relationship.
RELATIONSHIPS
At Capacity
Expanding the definition of "polysaturation". Or do we need another word?
RELATIONSHIPS
Dating Newbs and Not So Nonmonogamous Partners
Is "brutal polyamory" the answer?
RELATIONSHIPS
The Opportunity in Conflict
The necessity of friction and repair in achieving true intimacy.
SELF CARE
Why slut tho?
On sexless slut eras and sex as validation.
RELATIONSHIPS
Agreement Grey Areas
Response to an inquiry from a follower.
RELATIONSHIPS
Cheaters As People Pleasers
On control, complicity, and the problematic violence we romanticize when relationships fall apart.
RELATIONSHIPS
The Line Between Jealousy and Protection
And how to hold both at once.
RELATIONSHIPS
Bad Listeners Are Bad in Bed
How curiosity, attunement, consent, safety, and sexual pleasure are inextricably linked.
KINK
My Partner's Kinky Partner Feels Unsafe
Responses to questions submitted in comments, DMs, and here on Substack.
SELF CARE
Intentionality vs Passive Avoidance
The subtle art of disclosure in nonmonogamous relationship.
SELF CARE
The Slippery Thing About Limerence
Limerence and NRE are dirty words these days. But let's not do away with deliciousness altogether, eh?
RELATIONSHIPS
Sex as Creative Collaboration
Cultivating sustainable intimacy in relationship is an artistic endeavor.
GUIDES
Q&A: Nonmonogamous Parenting
Can you build a family while living ethically non-monogamously? Here's how to think about stability, structure, and raising kids in a poly household.
RELATIONSHIPS
Safety First
Our nervous system's need for safety can inhibit repair. The remedy is mutual courage and mutual generosity.
FEATURED
Radical Curiosity: The #1 Tool for $//xual Progress
A tease ahead of my talk with the Sexual Health Alliance
GUIDES
So You're Going To A Play Party
Everything I wish I knew. From the Safety Director at a prominent play party in LA.
RELATIONSHIPS
Q&A: My Partner Lashes Out, Then Asks Me to Hold Space
When your partner expects you to hold space for their anger—but you can't. Plus: how to stay grounded when opening up brings big feelings.
KINK
The Healing Power of Hockey Horn
Heated Rivalry as trauma reclamation.
