ENM Resources
Books and worksheets to help you navigate ethical non-monogamy — whether you're just starting out or years into your journey.
📚 Essential Books
The Ethical Slut
The definitive guide to non-monogamy. Covers jealousy, communication, and building relationships outside the mainstream.
Polysecure
Explores attachment theory in the context of consensual non-monogamy. Essential reading if you want to understand your attachment style in ENM.
More Than Two
A practical guide to ethical polyamory. Focuses on putting the people in your relationships first.
Designer Relationships
A guide to happy monogamy, positive polyamory, and optimistic open relationships for all relationship styles.
Redefining Our Relationships
A short, accessible introduction to radical relationship structures and challenging monogamy norms.
Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory
A memoir of opening a long marriage, which the Los Angeles Times called “an undeniable page-turner.” Natalie writes for the hub.
Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage
A personal memoir exploring what it means to live an authentically open life. Great for those questioning monogamy for the first time.
📝 Worksheets & Printables
The W.I.S.E. Worksheet
Helps you name what you actually want from polyamory, rather than only what you have agreed to. From the second issue of her Love Letters.
27 Polyamory Check-In Questions
A set of questions for checking in with partners — useful on a schedule, or when something feels off and you cannot name it yet.
