How the Six Pillars of Mindful Dating Can Transform Your Love Life
I’m one of those freaks who genuinely enjoys dating. Not because I typically get what I want (believe me, I don’t), but because I see dating as a transforma
Marie Thouin
Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach
Marie Thouin, PhD is a leading expert on compersion and author of "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships," the first-ever comprehensive scholarly book on the topic. In her coaching practice, she supports folks of all backgrounds and orientations to create intentional, authentic, and vibrant love lives.
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Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach
Marie Thouin, PhD is a leading expert on compersion and author of "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships," the first-ever comprehensive scholarly book on the topic. In her coaching practice, she supports folks of all backgrounds and orientations to create intentional, authentic, and vibrant love lives.
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RELATIONSHIPS
Ghosting and the Stages of Grief
Being ghosted in dating can stir up the same cycle of emotions we might feel after losing a loved one. Here's how to heal.
SELF CARE
Becoming a Parentless Adult: A Hidden Rite of Passage
Losing both parents shifts consciousness in unexpected ways. A reflection on radical self-responsibility and the initiation of becoming your own anchor.
RELATIONSHIPS
Humanizing Online Dating Through Mindful Swiping
Can dating apps be used mindfully? A guide to bringing intention, loving-kindness, and authentic self-expression to your online dating experience.
RELATIONSHIPS
Beyond Monogamy and Polyamory: The Freedom of Novogamy
Novogamy transcends the binary choice between monogamy and polyamory. Explore this relationship philosophy of freedom, fluidity, and conscious choice.
RELATIONSHIPS
Never Have a Boring Date Again: Ask Powerful Questions!
Transform your dates from surface-level small talk into meaningful connections by harnessing the power of genuine curiosity and open-ended questions.
RELATIONSHIPS
Are You Monoflexible?
Monoflexibility sits on the spectrum between strict monogamy and polyamory. Learn about this relationship orientation and whether it describes you.
RELATIONSHIPS
Got Jealousy? Here's How to Cultivate Compersion in Any Relationship
Compersion is the joy we feel when our partners find happiness with others. Learn the research-backed ways to cultivate this powerful emotion.
RELATIONSHIPS
10 Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself When Dating
Stop getting swept up by physical attraction alone. These 10 questions will help you assess character, values, and compatibility with deeper intelligence.
SELF CARE
Saying NO from the Heart
You won't reach your full YES until you master your NO. Learn to set loving, clear boundaries in dating and relationships.
RELATIONSHIPS
Comperstruggle
A comperstruggle is when you're caught between jealousy and compersion — sincerely wanting your partner to have a great time with someone else while also struggling with painful jealous feelings.
SELF CARE
Narrative Coherence and Mindful Dating
Dating can lead to deep healing and integration when approached mindfully. Learn how narrative coherence shapes your capacity for love and intimacy.
SELF CARE
Why I Am Obsessed with Relationships
From shaving her head and hitchhiking across the US at 18, to reopening her heart to love. A personal story of isolation, healing, and the courage to connect.
SELF CARE
Is Your Ego in Charge of Your Dating Life?
Nowhere does our ego become more activated than in dating. Learn to recognize ego-driven vs. heart-driven patterns and transform your approach to love.
RELATIONSHIPS
Use Compersion as a Flashlight (...not a Stick!)
Using compersion as a flashlight to illuminate the areas in our relationships that can be improved, rather than a stick to beat ourselves with for not feeling "poly enough."
RELATIONSHIPS
Two Types of Compersion: An Empowering Distinction
Compersion falls into two main categories: embodied compersion, the intoxicating joy felt in the body, and attitudinal compersion, a supportive outlook toward a partner's other relationships.
