Women are expected to be “cool” about everything
Cool with bad communication. Cool with being deprioritized. Cool with everything. And if you're not? You're difficult. Enough of that.
21 articles by Ansa Edim
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We love enthusiastic participation
Half-in doesn't cut it anymore. Enthusiastic participation — showing up fully — isn't a bonus in relationships. It's the bare minimum.
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Money, money, money, money!
Race, entrepreneurship, and dating walk into a bar. The complicated feelings that come up when money becomes part of the relationship equation.
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Is relationship anarchy a front?
Relationship anarchy is a valid philosophy — but some people use it as an excuse to dodge accountability. Here's how to tell the difference.
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ENM, Poly, Open - Oh My!
ENM, open, polyamory — they're not the same thing. Here's a clear, no-jargon breakdown of what each actually means and how they differ.
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Big girls need love, too
The internet has opinions about plus-size people and desire. Those opinions are wrong. Big girls deserve love, lust, and everything in between.
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"Emotional (Un)Availability"
Why are women expected to be endlessly emotionally available while their own needs go ignored? A real conversation about the double standard.
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Bonus Content: Dating Games
Mind games, mixed signals, and manipulation — the full debrief on what actually goes on beneath the surface of modern dating culture.
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Bad date or covert narcissist?
Bad week? Try a date with someone who gaslights, negs, and plays games. Here's how to tell if you met a jerk or a covert narcissist.
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🏳️🌈Happy Pride!🏳️🌈
Happy Pride! A celebration of loving freely, queerly, and unapologetically — and what it really means to build a life on your own terms.
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Is he passionate or controlling?
Intensity can look like love — until it doesn't. Here's how to tell the difference between passion and control before things get dangerous.
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Oh, you just got out of a relationship?
He broke up with her two days ago and spent the whole date talking about her. A cautionary tale about dating people who aren't actually ready.
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Background checks for errrbody
You invited a stranger home and know nothing about them. Time to fix that. Why background checks should be non-negotiable in modern dating.
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He's just not that into you
You got ghosted. It stings. Here are the signs you probably missed — and how to read the room before you invest in someone who's already checked out.
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Real talk: Is wanting kids a red flag?
Wanting kids isn't a red flag — but ignoring incompatibility around it is. Here's the honest conversation ENM daters need to have upfront.
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Professional Projectionists 101
A man called well-traveled women red flags. The mental gymnastics people do to project their insecurities onto others is truly Olympic-level.
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Please don't call me chocolate
A Black woman shares the racial fetishization and cultural insensitivity red flags to watch for on dating apps — and why she unmatch the instant she gets the.
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Red Flags for Over 35
Turning 35 changed how one woman sees dating. From refusing gender roles to dropping people-pleasing habits, here are the things she is joyfully leaving.
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What we're NOT gonna do this year...
Situationships, self-abandonment, and bad communication habits — here's the dating baggage we're leaving at the door this year. For real.
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ENM, Open, Poly — words matter
Someone calling themselves non-monogamous on an app does not mean they practice it ethically. Five red flags that reveal the language is being used without.
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Be safe this cuffing season
Cuffing season makes it easy to settle for the wrong person. Here's how to stay safe, spot red flags, and avoid covert narcissists this winter.
