Sex and Romance Can Be Separate

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I don't know who needs to hear this, but you don't have to be in a romantic relationship with someone to negotiate a respectful, considerate, boundaried, and communicative sexual connection with trust and security. Sex and romance can be separate if you want it to be.

(Note: this does not apply to demisexuals who need romance for attraction to happen. Y'all are obviously valid.)

Sex doesn't have to be this super precious sacred thing for everyone, and it can exist separate from romantic love. You can have amazing sex with someone you don't want a relationship with. If more people knew this, we would all have much better relationships and much better sex.

You don't have to pretend you want a relationship if you genuinely don't want one, just because you want sex.
You don't have to pretend you want sex if you genuinely don't want it, just because you want a relationship.
Just be honest about your desires, and find people who share them. It's that simple.

Let this be your cue to step into asking for exactly what you want, and not needing to lie about the things you don't.

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