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Casual Dating Is Not Polyamory

Dating around while secretly hoping one person wins your monogamy is not polyamory. Leanne Yau draws the line and explains why honesty is non-negotiable.

✦ BY LEANNE YAU
NOVEMBER 10, 2025
Casual Dating Is Not Polyamory

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Here are some Do’s and Don’ts if your curious about Polyamory:

  • Trying polyamory and later deciding monogamy works better for you (or vice versa): ✅

  • Being ambiamorous (capable of both monogamy and non-monogamy): ✅

  • Dating multiple people and calling it polyamory, while SECRETLY intending for one to "win" your devotion and rewarding your "favourite” with a monogamous relationship: ❌

It deeply frustrates me when people don't know the difference between dating around casual dating and polyamory. Make sure to clarify the difference before investing into a connection!

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