What Polyamory Is Teaching Me About Discernment
On love, alignment, capacity, and believing what our relationships show us
Journal
Real stories from real people navigating the beautiful mess of non-monogamy. From first-date butterflies to jealousy spirals and everything in between—these writers are sharing their unfiltered journeys so you can learn, relate, and feel a little less alone in yours.
Recovering from a break up?
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Letting Go: A 5-Minute Guided Meditation for Breakup Healing
Breakups are hard.
She Thought She Was Coming to Learn About Open Relationships. She Left Knowing Herself.
Mel came to learn about open relationships. She left knowing herself. A real story about ethical non-monogamy, transformation, and finding your calling.
You Knew EXACTLY What You Were Doing When You Led Me to Nowhere…
A raw letter to someone who pretended to want a real connection, then gaslit you when the mask started slipping. Your confusion was not the problem.
Loving in a Season (And Grieving When It Ends)
On the connections that mattered deeply, ended quietly, and never got a proper goodbye
The Tension Between Wanting More and Accepting What Is in Non-Monogamy
How longing, capacity, and reality shape the size and rhythm of open relationships, and how to make peace with intermittent intimacy in a culture that equates l
Rain down on me.
Written by: Tamar Simone Weir The first real rain of the season awakened a fierce rage within me. The need to do something crazy. I wanted my shit back finall
I Won’t Be a Masochist to Keep You
When my partner said the sex that worked for him now involved pain, I had to decide how much of myself I would contort to keep a decade-long love.
Did Polyamory Ruin My Marriage
On Solo Polyamory and divorce
Why Friendship Shouldn’t Be A Downgrade From A Relationship
Have you ever been told "let's just be friends" by someone you dated, and later found out that person had absolutely zero intentions of ever reaching out to you
Confession: I Dated an AI Woman After a Breakup in 2024 — Still Am- I’m Not Alone
One writer turned to an AI companion after heartbreak in 2024 and found he wasn't alone. A candid essay on grief, loneliness, and the blurry edges of intimacy.
So Your First Open Relationship Failed…And That’s Okay.
Hey, so if your first open relationship crashed and burned, you know you can just…try again, right?
falling in & out of love @ the same time WHAT?
Written by: Tamar Simone Weir What does it mean to fall in love? And to fall out of love? When I try to answer these big life questions, I find myself always go
Abortion, Planned Parenthood, and the Child We Couldn’t Keep
A man recalls supporting his partner through an abortion during COVID — the grief, the care, and the conviction that reproductive choice always belongs to.
The One Thing No One Warned Me About Polyamorous Breakups
Breakups in polyamory are super wild because you feel like you've "failed" on multiple levels. Mononormativity tells us breakups=failure as it is, but the extra
What my break from dating has taught me about non-monogamy
Non-monogamy doesn't look the same for everyone and that is the beauty of it
Polyamory and Grief
Non-monogamy can be a joyful experience, but for some people this joy is mixed with contradictory feelings of grief and loss, even if they are thriving and woul
Becoming a Parentless Adult: A Hidden Rite of Passage
Losing both parents shifts consciousness in unexpected ways. A reflection on radical self-responsibility and the initiation of becoming your own anchor.
9 Reminders For Polyamorous Breakups
1. Lots of people are going to say “I told you so” because they are biased to believe polyamory doesn’t work long term. Breakups happen for all kinds of reasons
I Love You - So Let’s Break Up
Say your partner is pretending to be okay with polyamory. So whose responsibility is it to break up?
3 Tips For Polyamorous Breakups
So your partner is going through a breakup, what do you do? Here are three tips:
A Breakup Isn’t Failure
Have you ever felt compelled to stay in a bad polyamorous relationship because you were afraid that if you broke up, people would invalidate your experience by
You Don’t Have To Be Friends With Your Ex.
As a polyamorous person, I've sometimes run into situations where I COULD start or continue a friendship with someone, but I choose not to for a variety of reas
The beauty in letting go
In the beginning I thought ENM was all about adding new relationships—new play, new people, new experiences - but lately, I’ve been thinking more about subt
Don’t Let Polyamory Be Your Excuse Not To Break Up
Adding more love doesn't fix a broken relationship. If it's not working, polyamory isn't the answer — it's the delay. Time to be honest.
Being Friends With An Ex Can Be A Green Flag, Actually
Hot take: staying friends with an ex can be a sign of emotional intelligence.
Should You Compromise Or Break Up?
An uncomfortable truth: you simply cannot control your partner's desires, no matter how much they may upset you. A little compromise is healthy in all relations
Stop Using Polyamory To ‘Quiet Quit’ Your Relationships
Opening up to avoid an honest breakup isn't ethical non-monogamy — it's quiet quitting a relationship. Leanne Yau explains why endings deserve integrity.
Unconditional Love Can be Problematic
Unpopular opinion: breaking up should always be an option - no matter how much you love them, no matter how long you've been together, and no matter what entang
Supporting my Primary Partner Through Heartbreak
Supporting a partner through heartbreak (over someone else) isn't always straightforward.
Oh, you just got out of a relationship?
He broke up with her two days ago and spent the whole date talking about her. A cautionary tale about dating people who aren't actually ready.
Can I SAVE My Relationship?
The post Can I SAVE My Relationship? appeared first on Leanne Million Coaching.
Friends With My Exes
Not long ago, I connected with a guy on a dating app who laughed when I mentioned I retain most of my former partners as friends. He made it a point to let me k
