Kitty

Kitty

Master Certified Coach; Founder of Loving Without Boundaries

Kitty Chambliss is a relationship coach — not a therapist — who helps people move through jealousy, insecurity, and the fear of not being enough in open and non-monogamous relationships. She founded Loving Without Boundaries in 2012, has coached 390+ people, and has logged 8,400+ coaching hours as a Master Certified Coach, a credential held by fewer than 4% of coaches worldwide. She's the author…

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Master Certified Coach; Founder of Loving Without Boundaries

Kitty Chambliss is a Master Certified Coach — a credential held by fewer than 4% of coaches worldwide — and the founder of Loving Without Boundaries. With nearly 10,000 coaching hours, she helps people in ENM, polyamorous, and open relationships build lives rooted in honesty rather than shame. She is the author of the #1 Amazon bestselling Jealousy Survival Guide, host of the award-winning Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and a member of the APA's Committee on Consensual Non-Monogamy. She has been practicing ethical non-monogamy for over twenty years — and she teaches from inside the life, not outside it.

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Loving Without Boundaries

Kitty Chambliss explores polyamory and ethical non-monogamy through interviews and real stories, creating awareness and acceptance through education, communication, and the respectful exchange of ideas.

31 articles by Kitty

More Than One in Five Single Americans Have Tried Consensual Non-Monogamy. Here’s What Nobody Tells Them About Jealousy.

More Than One in Five Single Americans Have Tried Consensual Non-Monogamy. Here’s What Nobody Tells Them About Jealousy.

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! Research published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that more than one in five single American adults re

4 Questions to Ask a Therapist Before Your First Session (If You’re in an Open or Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationship)
Culture & Critique

4 Questions to Ask a Therapist Before Your First Session (If You’re in an Open or Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationship)

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! Somebody finally works up the nerve to go to therapy. And then they spend the first three sessions explaining what th

Publishers Weekly Quoted Me Years Ago — And I Never Knew
New to ENM

Publishers Weekly Quoted Me Years Ago — And I Never Knew

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! Sometimes you find out something about your own life years after it happened. Years ago, I contributed an essay to Dr

Why Don’t I Feel Happy for My Partner’s Other Relationships? (Even Though I Want To)
Jealousy & Compersion

Why Don’t I Feel Happy for My Partner’s Other Relationships? (Even Though I Want To)

Nothing is wrong with you if you don’t feel happy for your partner’s other relationship yet. That feeling everyone talks about — compersion, the warm, genuine j

Podcast Interview: Eve Rickert, Solo Polyamorous Relationship Anarchist
Metamours & Structures

Podcast Interview: Eve Rickert, Solo Polyamorous Relationship Anarchist

Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am delighted to share my latest podcast interview with Eve Rickert, a solo polyamorous, relationship anarchi

I Was Featured in Authority Magazine, And I Want You to Read It
Jealousy & Compersion

I Was Featured in Authority Magazine, And I Want You to Read It

Beautiful people, I have to share something with you. A few weeks ago, Authority Magazine featured me in a piece called “Five Things You Need To Create a Highly

Am I Jealous or Am I Envious? Why the Difference Actually Matters
Jealousy & Compersion

Am I Jealous or Am I Envious? Why the Difference Actually Matters

Most people use “jealous” as a catch-all word for every uncomfortable feeling that shows up when a partner is out living their non-monogamous life. But jealousy

My Jealousy Reading List Is Now Live on BookDNA
Jealousy & Compersion

My Jealousy Reading List Is Now Live on BookDNA

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! I got to do something fun this week: I built a curated reading list on a platform called BookDNA, five books I actual

What’s the Difference Between Jealousy and an Actual Red Flag?
Jealousy & Compersion

What’s the Difference Between Jealousy and an Actual Red Flag?

Here’s the question underneath the question: is what I’m feeling telling me something true about right now, or is it telling me something true about what happen

What Books Should I Read If I’m Struggling With Jealousy In My Open Relationship?
Jealousy & Compersion

What Books Should I Read If I’m Struggling With Jealousy In My Open Relationship?

Hello Loving Without Boundaries Community! I get asked this constantly. Someone’s just found their way into this life — open, polyamorous, ethically non-monogam

My Partner Says They Can’t Reassure Me Enough — Am I Asking Too Much?
Jealousy & CompersionCommunication & Boundaries

My Partner Says They Can’t Reassure Me Enough — Am I Asking Too Much?

No, you’re not asking too much. But something in the pattern probably does need to shift — and the shift isn’t “ask for less.” It’s “get some of what you need f

Does Jealousy in Non-Monogamy Ever Go Away, or Do You Just Manage It Forever?
Jealousy & Compersion

Does Jealousy in Non-Monogamy Ever Go Away, or Do You Just Manage It Forever?

Here’s the honest answer, not the one that sells better: it doesn’t fully go away. Not at five years in, not at twenty. And I want you to hear that as relief, n

Is Jealousy Proof I’m Not Cut Out for Polyamory?
Jealousy & Compersion

Is Jealousy Proof I’m Not Cut Out for Polyamory?

No. And I want to say that clearly, right up front, because I have heard some version of “maybe I’m just not built for this” on more intake calls than I can cou

How Do I Stop the 3am Jealousy Spiral When I’m Lying Next to My Sleeping Partner?
Jealousy & Compersion

How Do I Stop the 3am Jealousy Spiral When I’m Lying Next to My Sleeping Partner?

If you’re staring at the ceiling at 2:45 in the morning, crying, and you can’t even explain why — nothing is wrong with you. This isn’t proof your relationship

I’m Polyamorous and I Still Get Jealous. Is Something Wrong with Me?
Jealousy & Compersion

I’m Polyamorous and I Still Get Jealous. Is Something Wrong with Me?

I’m Polyamorous and I Still Get Jealous. Is Something Wrong with Me?

Why Does My Partner’s Date Make Me Spiral, Even When I Trust Them?
Jealousy & CompersionQueer & Identity

Why Does My Partner’s Date Make Me Spiral, Even When I Trust Them?

Trust and jealousy are not opposites — you can trust your partner completely and still feel your stomach drop the moment they walk out the door for a date. That

At 70, He Refused to Spend His Golden Years in Silence
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At 70, He Refused to Spend His Golden Years in Silence

Cheers, beautiful people. I want to tell you about John. John is 70 years old. He has been married for 28 years to a woman he loves deeply. They built something

Podcast Interview: “More Than Monogamy”, The Ethical Non-Monogamy Documentary Team
Culture & Critique

Podcast Interview: “More Than Monogamy”, The Ethical Non-Monogamy Documentary Team

Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am humbled, happy, and inspired to share my latest podcast interview with the team behind the new ethical no

There’s a New Home for ENM Resources — And We’re In It
New to ENM

There’s a New Home for ENM Resources — And We’re In It

Why I said yes to the Non-Monogamy Hub, and why I think it matters for our community right now. Beautiful People! I want to tell you about something that genuin

I’m in a Documentary — And I Want You to Watch It With Me (More Than Monogamy)
Culture & Critique

I’m in a Documentary — And I Want You to Watch It With Me (More Than Monogamy)

A free screening, a live conversation, and the reason I said yes to being on camera when every instinct told me not to. Cheers, Beautiful People! Let me be hone

Podcast Interview: Gary Brick, Happily Married Polyamorist with Asexual Monogamous Wife
Communication & BoundariesNew to ENM

Podcast Interview: Gary Brick, Happily Married Polyamorist with Asexual Monogamous Wife

Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am happy and inspired to share my latest podcast interview with Gary Brick. Oooooh, how I have been waiting

What Pride Month Means When You Love Outside the Lines 🌈
Queer & Identity

What Pride Month Means When You Love Outside the Lines 🌈

What does Pride mean when you love outside the lines? Kitty Chambliss reflects on queerness, ethical non-monogamy, and 20+ years of loving authentically.

Podcast Interview: Maria Palumbo, Sex, Love, Trauma Coach, and Therapist
Mind & BodyCommunication & Boundaries

Podcast Interview: Maria Palumbo, Sex, Love, Trauma Coach, and Therapist

Kitty Chambliss sits down with sex, love, and trauma coach Maria Palumbo to explore how attachment wounds shape our experiences in ethical non-monogamy.

She Thought She Was Coming to Learn About Open Relationships. She Left Knowing Herself.
Breakups & EndingsNew to ENM

She Thought She Was Coming to Learn About Open Relationships. She Left Knowing Herself.

Mel came to learn about open relationships. She left knowing herself. A real story about ethical non-monogamy, transformation, and finding your calling.

Three stories. One truth. You don’t have to figure this out alone.
New to ENMJealousy & Compersion

Three stories. One truth. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Three real client stories — Diana, Calvin, and Gina — and what they all discovered about navigating ethical non-monogamy without going it alone.

I Just Finished the Heated Rivalry Book at Midnight. Here’s What This ENM Relationship Coach Can’t Stop Thinking About.
Queer & IdentityCulture & Critique

I Just Finished the Heated Rivalry Book at Midnight. Here’s What This ENM Relationship Coach Can’t Stop Thinking About.

An ENM coach reads a romance novel at midnight and finds something real. Here's what Heated Rivalry taught Kitty Chambliss about love, trust, and non-monogamy.

Podcast Interview: Ryle Kestano, Experienced Relationship Author and Creative
Communication & BoundariesMind & Body

Podcast Interview: Ryle Kestano, Experienced Relationship Author and Creative

Kitty Chambliss talks with relationship author Ryle Kestano about authentic connection, inner healing, and what ethical non-monogamy looks like in real life.

She’d been healing her whole life. As she approached her 60’s, she finally found the missing piece.
Jealousy & CompersionQueer & Identity

She’d been healing her whole life. As she approached her 60’s, she finally found the missing piece.

Gina spent decades healing — therapy, books, workshops. Then, approaching 60, she found what had always been missing. A real story about ENM and transformation.

Podcast Interview: Mariko Sakai, Women Empowerment and Sexuality Coach
Mind & Body

Podcast Interview: Mariko Sakai, Women Empowerment and Sexuality Coach

Kitty Chambliss interviews Mariko Sakai on sovereign feminine energy, Female-Led Relationships, and thriving in ethical non-monogamy communities.

He was terrified of losing him. Five years later… they’re engaged. 💍
Jealousy & CompersionQueer & Identity

He was terrified of losing him. Five years later… they’re engaged. 💍

Calvin was so afraid of losing the man he loved that he could not breathe. Five years later, he is engaged. A real story about trust and non-monogamy.

“I thought I was arriving to save my relationship — but that’s not what happened at all…”
Jealousy & CompersionCommunication & Boundaries

“I thought I was arriving to save my relationship — but that’s not what happened at all…”

Diana arrived ready to save her relationship. What she found instead was herself. A real story about open relationships, identity, and transformation.

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