My Partner Says They Can’t Reassure Me Enough — Am I Asking Too Much?
No, you’re not asking too much. But something in the pattern probably does need to shift — and the shift isn’t “ask for less.” It’s “get some of what you need f
Kitty
Master Certified Coach; Founder of Loving Without Boundaries
Kitty Chambliss is a Master Certified Coach — a credential held by fewer than 4% of coaches worldwide — and the founder of Loving Without Boundaries. With nearly 10,000 coaching hours, she helps people in ENM, polyamorous, and open relationships build lives rooted in honesty rather than shame. She is the author of the #1 Amazon bestselling Jealousy Survival Guide, host of the award-winning Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and a member of the APA's Committee on Consensual Non-Monogamy. She has been practicing ethical non-monogamy for over twenty years — and she teaches from inside the life, not outside it.
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Master Certified Coach; Founder of Loving Without Boundaries
Kitty Chambliss is a Master Certified Coach — a credential held by fewer than 4% of coaches worldwide — and the founder of Loving Without Boundaries. With nearly 10,000 coaching hours, she helps people in ENM, polyamorous, and open relationships build lives rooted in honesty rather than shame. She is the author of the #1 Amazon bestselling Jealousy Survival Guide, host of the award-winning Loving Without Boundaries podcast, and a member of the APA's Committee on Consensual Non-Monogamy. She has been practicing ethical non-monogamy for over twenty years — and she teaches from inside the life, not outside it.
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Kitty Chambliss explores polyamory and ethical non-monogamy through interviews and real stories, creating awareness and acceptance through education, communication, and the respectful exchange of ideas.
21 articles by Kitty
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Does Jealousy in Non-Monogamy Ever Go Away, or Do You Just Manage It Forever?
Here’s the honest answer, not the one that sells better: it doesn’t fully go away. Not at five years in, not at twenty. And I want you to hear that as relief, n
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Is Jealousy Proof I’m Not Cut Out for Polyamory?
No. And I want to say that clearly, right up front, because I have heard some version of “maybe I’m just not built for this” on more intake calls than I can cou
RELATIONSHIPS
How Do I Stop the 3am Jealousy Spiral When I’m Lying Next to My Sleeping Partner?
If you’re staring at the ceiling at 2:45 in the morning, crying, and you can’t even explain why — nothing is wrong with you. This isn’t proof your relationship
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I’m Polyamorous and I Still Get Jealous. Is Something Wrong with Me?
I’m Polyamorous and I Still Get Jealous. Is Something Wrong with Me?
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Why Does My Partner’s Date Make Me Spiral, Even When I Trust Them?
Trust and jealousy are not opposites — you can trust your partner completely and still feel your stomach drop the moment they walk out the door for a date. That
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At 70, He Refused to Spend His Golden Years in Silence
Cheers, beautiful people. I want to tell you about John. John is 70 years old. He has been married for 28 years to a woman he loves deeply. They built something
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Podcast Interview: “More Than Monogamy”, The Ethical Non-Monogamy Documentary Team
Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am humbled, happy, and inspired to share my latest podcast interview with the team behind the new ethical no
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There’s a New Home for ENM Resources — And We’re In It
Why I said yes to the Non-Monogamy Hub, and why I think it matters for our community right now. Beautiful People! I want to tell you about something that genuin
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I’m in a Documentary — And I Want You to Watch It With Me (More Than Monogamy)
A free screening, a live conversation, and the reason I said yes to being on camera when every instinct told me not to. Cheers, Beautiful People! Let me be hone
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Podcast Interview: Gary Brick, Happily Married Polyamorist with Asexual Monogamous Wife
Hello, Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) community! I am happy and inspired to share my latest podcast interview with Gary Brick. Oooooh, how I have been waiting
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What Pride Month Means When You Love Outside the Lines 🌈
What does Pride mean when you love outside the lines? Kitty Chambliss reflects on queerness, ethical non-monogamy, and 20+ years of loving authentically.
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Podcast Interview: Maria Palumbo, Sex, Love, Trauma Coach, and Therapist
Kitty Chambliss sits down with sex, love, and trauma coach Maria Palumbo to explore how attachment wounds shape our experiences in ethical non-monogamy.
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She Thought She Was Coming to Learn About Open Relationships. She Left Knowing Herself.
Mel came to learn about open relationships. She left knowing herself. A real story about ethical non-monogamy, transformation, and finding your calling.
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Three stories. One truth. You don’t have to figure this out alone.
Three real client stories — Diana, Calvin, and Gina — and what they all discovered about navigating ethical non-monogamy without going it alone.
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I Just Finished the Heated Rivalry Book at Midnight. Here’s What This ENM Relationship Coach Can’t Stop Thinking About.
An ENM coach reads a romance novel at midnight and finds something real. Here's what Heated Rivalry taught Kitty Chambliss about love, trust, and non-monogamy.
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Podcast Interview: Ryle Kestano, Experienced Relationship Author and Creative
Kitty Chambliss talks with relationship author Ryle Kestano about authentic connection, inner healing, and what ethical non-monogamy looks like in real life.
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She’d been healing her whole life. As she approached her 60’s, she finally found the missing piece.
Gina spent decades healing — therapy, books, workshops. Then, approaching 60, she found what had always been missing. A real story about ENM and transformation.
SELF CARE
Podcast Interview: Mariko Sakai, Women Empowerment and Sexuality Coach
Kitty Chambliss interviews Mariko Sakai on sovereign feminine energy, Female-Led Relationships, and thriving in ethical non-monogamy communities.
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He was terrified of losing him. Five years later… they’re engaged. 💍
Calvin was so afraid of losing the man he loved that he could not breathe. Five years later, he is engaged. A real story about trust and non-monogamy.
SELF CARE
“I thought I was arriving to save my relationship — but that’s not what happened at all…”
Diana arrived ready to save her relationship. What she found instead was herself. A real story about open relationships, identity, and transformation.
