Gina spent decades healing — therapy, books, workshops. Then, approaching 60, she found what had always been missing. A real story about ENM and transformation.
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Gina, a library professional in her 60s, spent decades working on her own healing journey. She had survived childhood abuse and engaged in extensive therapeutic work including DBT, EMDR, somatic interventions, and mindfulness practices. Her intake form demonstrated her commitment: "I easily invest in myself because I realize my ideal relationships and emotional and mental health are priceless."
When asked to rate her awesomeness, Gina described herself as possessing the qualities of both Jack Jack from The Incredibles—with unlimited, emerging superpowers—and Edna Mode, the fierce genius who makes everyone around her better.
By the time Gina sought coaching, she had already constructed a meaningful life. She maintained a long marriage to Marcus, a thoughtful partner fully supportive of who she was. She also had a deep 20-year friendship with Sarah that had become woven into her family’s fabric. What remained unspoken publicly was that Sarah was also her romantic partner for the past decade.
Gina had finally found language for her identity: bisexual. She loved deeply in multiple directions and ways, defining herself on her own terms.
Despite these beautiful relationships, Gina struggled with jealousy, fear, and self-worth challenges rooted in her past trauma. She sought help after discovering Kitty Chambliss’s Jealousy Survival Guide, committing fully to the coaching program starting August 2022.
The results proved transformative. Within months, Gina reported seeing "massive improvements in ALL my relationships, including—and most importantly—my relationship with myself." Her therapist also noted significant positive changes. Gina continues in the program today, viewing it as essential to her ongoing growth.
If Gina’s story resonates with you, working with an ENM-aware coach or therapist who understands ethical non-monogamy can make all the difference.
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