Pleasure as Medicine
How BDSM and Intentional Kink Rewired My Nervous System After Trauma and Depression (plus ways you can incorporate these practices too)
Journal
Real stories from real people navigating the beautiful mess of non-monogamy. From first-date butterflies to jealousy spirals and everything in between—these writers are sharing their unfiltered journeys so you can learn, relate, and feel a little less alone in yours.
Adaptive BDSM, Disability & Collaborative Intimacy
What Kink Has Taught Me About Accessible Relationships, Whether Your Monogamous, Polyamorous, or Somewhere in the Middle
Adaptive Spicy Play, Disability & Collaborative Intimacy
What Kinky Play Has Taught Me About Accessible Relationships, Whether Your Monogamous, Polyamorous, or Somewhere in the Middle
Quiet Tantrums
Last week I did something impulsive. I felt angry and lonely. Or as my fellow submissive friend has described it, my spiteful baby mode was activated.
On the Hyper-Sexualization of Sensuality
Sensuality and sexuality are not the same thing. Conflating them harms sensory-seeking and neurodivergent people most — and all of us deserve better.
My Partner's Kinky Partner Feels Unsafe
Responses to questions submitted in comments, DMs, and here on Substack.
Will You Hold My Anger, Daddy?
Inherited rage, a Daddy kink, and the question of whether any man can truly hold the weight of intergenerational abandonment and girlhood harm.
The Aesthetics of Innocence
Post-Epstein feminism says abandon girlish aesthetics. One woman refuses — arguing her innocence, her desire, and her girlhood still belong to her alone.
How Do You Know You’re Safe at a Play Party?
A solo poly unicorn explains why a consent talk alone doesn't make a play party safe — and how learning to read her body became her real safety practice.
The Political Risk of Denying Eros
When the White House posted a Daddy kink meme, one writer confronted her own submission desires — and found a political case for trusting erotic longing.
I Won’t Be a Masochist to Keep You
When my partner said the sex that worked for him now involved pain, I had to decide how much of myself I would contort to keep a decade-long love.
Calling Men Daddy and the Politics of Ick
The ick is wisdom, not internalized patriarchy. One woman traces her Daddy kink through guilt, bad breakups, and the moment her body finally proved it right.
Kink, Power Dynamics, and Society
I fundamentally disagree with the (unfortunately common) notion that kink reinforces power dynamics in society and is inherently problematic. Yes, we may not be
The Healing Power of Hockey Horn
Heated Rivalry as trauma reclamation.
masturbating in a room full of people
Written by: Tamar Simone Weir In June of 2019 I went to my first kinky BDSM, sex club. This was my first erotic event that I had gone to, although I had been cu
5 Reasons Someone Might Be Kinky (That Have Nothing To Do With Trauma)
Kink is often pathologised as something that stems from trauma. In reality, there are many nuanced reasons why someone might be kinky. It doesn't mean they're '
Navigating Non-Monogamy and Kink with Vanilla Partners
Kink can be a deeply touching experience. It can be exactly what you need, almost like a form of therapy. But what if one of your partners is vanilla? When I re
Kink Can Be Your Healer - Here's How
A way to reimagine sex in our sex-negative world.
What Babygirl got right (and wrong) about kink
Thoughts from a Certified Sex Therapist
