Polyamorous Dating Can Be Exhausting - And That’s OK

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Are you embracing polyamorous dating and feeling excited about all the love and connection I'm about to have in my life, but... realising that dating means meeting and talking to new people, dealing with rejection, and more potential breakups?

Dating, especially in the age of dating apps, has its unique ups and downs - and polyamorous dating even more so. Polyamory can be a really great way to explore and discover different facets of yourself by connecting with different people, but it also opens you up to a lot of rejection, vulnerability, hurt, and yes, potentially multiple break ups. Sometimes at the same time. Fun 🙃

To me, though? It’s all worth it. The joyful experiences I’ve had with people have truly nourished my soul, and have opened up so many opportunities that I would never have been able to explore otherwise. As for the negative experiences, while they were distressing and even traumatic at times, I still learned a lot from them and don’t regret any of it.

Also, you’re allowed to take a break from dating for any reason. You do not need to actively have multiple partners at the same time to call yourself polyamorous. Sometimes other stuff is going on in your life and you need to prioritise that. Or it’s really getting you down and you need to take some time for your own mental health and to focus on yourself and rebuilding your confidence. All of that is valid. Monogamous people do it, so why can’t you?

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