Dating Newbies in Polyamory

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If you are a more experienced polyamorous person dating a newbie, your responsibility is to give them the space to figure stuff out and try things at a reasonable pace, instead of imposing your own desires/standards/expectations onto them.

Most polyamory newbies need extra care, patience, and empathy as they learn what their individual needs and boundaries are. If you do not have the capacity to provide them with a safe space to explore, make mistakes, and have big feelings, DO NOT DATE THEM.

If you're not prepared to take on the responsibility of dating a polyamory newbie, simply do not date a polyamory newbie. Don't traumatise someone by going at your own pace and expecting them to catch up with years of experience without any help from you. Seriously 🤦🏻‍♀️

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