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Not all toxic, draining friendships are obvious. Some feel loving, some feel okay but inconsistent, and some slowly make you question yourself altogether.

This quiz can help you identify the patterns you’re most likely experiencing in your friendships so you can respond with more clarity instead of confusion.

Answer honestly. First instinct only. Then let’s discuss your results below:

Instructions

Pick the answer that feels most true when you think about your interactions with a specific friend or group of friends.

• A = Mostly stable / mutual

• B = Sometimes inconsistent / unclear

• C = Often one-sided or harmful

QUIZ QUESTIONS

1. Emotional support

When you’re going through something, your friend(s) usually:

• A) Show up in a steady, reliable way

• B) Show up sometimes, but it’s inconsistent

• C) Often minimize it or avoid it

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2. Effort balance

Who usually initiates contact or plans?

• A) Balanced

• B) Mostly me

• C) Almost always me

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3. Feeling after interactions

After spending time with them, you usually feel:

• A) Neutral or better

• B) Mixed (good and slightly drained)

• C) Anxious, second-guessing, or low

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4. Availability of friends

When you need them most, they are:

• A) Generally available or responsive

• B) Sometimes available, sometimes not

• C) Hard to reach or emotionally unavailable

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5. Conversation dynamic

In conversations, you feel:

• A) Heard and equally engaged

• B) Sometimes heard, sometimes sidelined

• C) Often redirected, minimized, or ignored

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6. Boundaries

If you say “no,” your friends:

• A) Respect it

• B) Sometimes respect it, sometimes guilt-trip

• C) Often react poorly or withdraw affection

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7. Emotional safety

You feel safe being fully yourself with them:

• A) Yes

• B) Not always

• C) Rarely or never

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8. Friendship consistency

Their behavior toward you is:

• A) Stable over time

• B) Hot and cold

• C) Unpredictable or conditional

QUIZ COMPLETE! Now let’s calculate your scores:

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