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What is Relationship Coaching?

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MAY 7, 2026

Relationship coaching for polyamory and relationship transitions

Relationship coaching helps you get from where you are now to where you want to be.

Counselling often focuses on healing trauma, past hurts, and deeper therapeutic work. Coaching is more focused on clarity, choice, and movement.

In our work together, we make space for what hurts, what feels tender, and what still needs care.

And we keep moving.

Each session is designed to help you take one meaningful step toward the relationship, confidence, and clarity you’re craving.

This work might be for you if...

You’re new to polyamory and want guidance before you learn everything the hard way.

You’re going through a relationship transition, like a breakup, a new partner, a changing dynamic, or a big relational unknown.

You’re wanting to build confidence, create new connections, and feel more grounded in your non-monogamous relationships.

You’re not sure what kind of relationship structure is right for you, but you know the old rules don’t quite fit anymore.

Why relationship coaching?

There is so much to be unsure about in polyamory.

What do I want?
What’s realistic?
What do I ask for?
What do I need to let go of?
How do I do this without losing myself?

Working with me helps you slow it all down, sort through the noise, and find the next honest step.

Most of us were only taught one model for love.

Monogamy is treated like the default. Like the only responsible option. Like anything outside of it is doomed, selfish, immature, or impossible.

So when you choose something different, it can be easy to doubt yourself. Especially when other people don’t understand.

I know that polyamory can work.

Not perfectly. Not without discomfort. Not without learning.

But it can be conscious, loving, stable, erotic, spacious, and deeply chosen.

And you don’t have to figure it all out alone.

Polyamory asks for different skills

You might already be good at communicating.

You might already know how to name your feelings, set boundaries, and have hard conversations.

And still, polyamory can ask something completely different of you.

It asks you to unlearn scarcity.
To work with jealousy without letting it run the show.
To build agreements that are alive, not performative.
To stay connected to yourself while the people you love are also loving other people.

You can learn this through trial and error.

But trial and error can be expensive when your heart, your nervous system, and your relationships are on the line.

Coaching gives you support, reflection, and guidance while you build the skills this relationship structure actually requires.

Ways to work with me

There are three ways to work with me.

Learning sessions

These are free, one-hour group sessions where I teach on a topic like jealousy, agreements, communication, or polyamory foundations.

Each session includes teaching followed by live Q&A.

Single session

A single 90-minute session for an individual or relationship.

We focus on one clear issue, one meaningful shift, and one big win you can take with you.

Three to six month coaching containers

For deeper support, we can work together over three to six months with sessions weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly.

This is for bigger relational patterns, transitions, confidence-building, or ongoing support as you move through real change.

All three and six month packages include email and voice note support between sessions.

Common questions

Is your work only for couples?

No.

My work starts with you as an individual.

You don’t need to be in a relationship, come with a partner, or have everything figured out before we begin.

Do I need to be non-monogamous to work with you?

Not at all.

Many of my clients are questioning, exploring, or unsure what kind of relationship structure is right for them.

You’re allowed to be in the question.

Do you push people toward polyamory?

No.

My work is about choice, not conversion.

I’m not here to convince you that polyamory is better. I’m here to help you listen honestly to what you want, what you need, and what kind of love actually fits your life.

How much does it cost?

I charge industry-standard rates, similar to what you’ll often see from therapists, counsellors, and coaches.

I also offer an accessible coaching program with reduced-cost sessions for people who are on a fixed income, students, and people who are employed but earning below the living wage in their area.