
Polycurious
Hosted by Fernanda
Fernanda guides curious listeners through the world of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy with practical advice, lived experience, and real talk for couples opening up.
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Latest episodes (88 total)

85. The Invite: Does The Movie Get Non-Monogamy Right?
Today I share my thoughts about The Invite, a movie about a married couple who invite their neighbors over for dinner. Things are awkward from the start, but they get even more awkward, funny, and real when an unexpected invitation to…
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84. Could I Live Without Non-Monogamy?
Sarah Stroh talks about her book, Monogamaybe, her process coming to terms with her non-monogamous identity and finding a partner who supported her in that journey. We discuss how to manage and process jealousy and what agreements look…
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83. Opening Up After Infidelity, Breakups and Living with Your Metamours with Natalie Davis (author of Saying Yes)
Natalie Davis, author of the memoir Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, shares her journey into polyamory, from opening up her marriage in her 40s after her husband’s infidelity to navigating living with her metamours.Natalie also…
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82. Lessons From Building a Triad with The Kink Collective
Cat, Natalie, and Joshua from The Kink Collective talk about their experience building a triad.We talk about honesty and transparency in non monogamy, especially when telling the full truth feels scary because you’re worried about your…
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81. When Your Partner Doesn't Want Non-monogamy with Courtney and Nate (the Mono-Poly couple)
When Courtney proposed opening their marriage on their 17th anniversary, their relationship was struggling. Nate was a devoted father and provider, but he had become emotionally distant. Courtney’s proposal was initially met with anger,…
OriginalOpen to Open Panel Recording
In this special episode, I'm sharing a live recording from Open to Open, a panel discussion I joined in Denver hosted by coaches Bella Schauer and Booster Blake. We share our personal experiences and answer questions about New…
Original80. How To Process Jealousy and Difficult Emotions
In this solo episode, I'm sharing the emotional processing tool that's completely changed the way I handle difficult emotions. It's called RAIN, and while I didn't create it (it was popularized by meditation teacher Tara Brach), I've…
OriginalOpening Up Without The Mess (Meet-up)
What We CoverHow to know if your relationship is readyWhat to expect: jealousy, guilt & imbalanceCommon mistakes to avoidWhy you should move at the pace of the slowest partnerHow to handle jealousy Jealousy is normal and…
OriginalBonus ep.79 Exploring Bisexuality as a Man
In this episode, Sam opens up about discovering his attraction to men later in life, what it was like having his first boyfriend, exploring sexual compatibility for the first time, and working through internalized shame around…
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79. The Problem with NRE (New Relationship Energy) with Sam Charles
Sex and relationship coach Sam Charles joins me to explore the shadow side of New Relationship Energy: the nervous system rollercoaster. We also talk about the reasons he is no longer over-compromising in romantic relationships, and he…
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78. Domming at a Sober Kink Party & My Daddy Issues
Today I share my experience unexpectedly domming someone for the very first time at a sober kink party, and how stepping into my dominant side helped me rethink my relationship with non-monogamy, begin to untangle some of my daddy issues…
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77. Kink, Power Dynamics & Knowing When to Walk Away with Vee from Girls Gone Deep
Today, Vee from Girls Gone Deep shares her journey into kink, what makes a great dom, and what people can actually gain from exploring BDSM dynamics. We also dive into what it feels like to want a level of commitment your partner can’t…
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Older episodes (76)
- 76. I Said Yes to ENM But My Body Panics with Bella & PatrickApr 14, 2026
- 75. Can You Learn Compersion? ft. Evolving Love ProjectMar 31, 2026
- 74. Do This Before Opening Up with Nancy & Jonny Mar 17, 2026
- 73. I Wanted Sex with One Partner But Not The Other with Libby SinbackMar 3, 2026
- 72. I Questioned Monogamy and Heteronormativity and Couldn’t Go BackFeb 17, 2026
- 71. Can BDSM Be Therapeutic? with Nicolle Hodges Feb 3, 2026
- 70. Jealousy is Information with Kayla + Carl (Part 2)Jan 20, 2026
- 69. Non-monogamy Saved Our Marriage with Kayla + Carl (Part 1)Jan 13, 2026
- 68. Having Three DADT Partners with Alex & SkylerDec 16, 2025
- 67. What Two Terrible Breakups Taught Me with JesseDec 4, 2025
- 66. All Roads Lead To Poly with Fer (Your Host)Nov 18, 2025
- 65. Making Peace with Your Insecurities with A & J (Part 2)Nov 4, 2025
- 64. Should You Have Rules When Opening Up? with A & J (Part 1)Oct 21, 2025
- 63. Handling Big Emotions in Polyamory, Triads and Breakups with Evita SawyersOct 7, 2025
- 62. When Your Partner Chooses A Nesting Partner with Roshi & FrankieSep 23, 2025
- 61. Meet My Secondary Partner Part 2 with JohnSep 9, 2025
- 60. Two Families, One Polycule with Catherine and BrianJul 1, 2025
- 59. Masculinity & Non-Monogamy: A Man’s Memoir with Adam of Seek the RiskJun 17, 2025
- 58. All About MFM Threesomes with Didi & AlexJun 3, 2025
- 57. Navigating Couple-to-Couple Play with Didi & AlexMay 20, 2025
- 56. Can a Kinky Relationship Be Asexual? Annie Undone Says YesMay 6, 2025
- 55. Aryn & Josh From Couples TherapyApr 22, 2025
- 54. When Their Actions Don't Match Their Words with Daniella Guimaraes (Velvet Ties)Apr 8, 2025
- 53. How to Fortify Your Relationship with Lamees and NickMar 25, 2025
- 52. How to Find Safety with Luna & Leo Mar 11, 2025
- 51. Hotwife, Mono-Poly or Something Else?Feb 25, 2025
- 50. Mono-Poly and Non-hierarchicalFeb 11, 2025
- 49. When You're Non-Monogamous and Your Partner Isn'tFeb 4, 2025
- 48. Don't Ask Don't Tell But Different with Fer & SethJan 28, 2025
- 47. How to Deal with NRE (New Relationship Energy)Oct 30, 2024
- Announcement!Sep 3, 2024
- 46. More Than A Mother with Molly Roden WinterApr 16, 2024
- 45. Poly and Pregnant with Sarah Stroh from MonogamishApr 9, 2024
- 44. Opening Up After Two Decades TogetherApr 2, 2024
- 43. Opening Up After Two Decades TogetherMar 26, 2024
- 42. Can Non-Monogamy Make You a Better Parent? with Evolving Love ProjectMar 20, 2024
- 41. Getting Comfortable with MMF Threesomes with Chamberlin & MichaelMay 24, 2023
- 40. Metamours Who Are Friends with Aviva, Lorena & JDMay 17, 2023
- 39. Intimacy and Psychedelics with Sarah TilleyMay 10, 2023
- 38. Twelve Lessons in my Polycurious Journey May 9, 2023
- 37. How to Have a Good Threesome with All The Feels (Part 2)May 3, 2023
- 36. Turning Jelousy into Kink with All The Feels (Part 1) Apr 26, 2023
- 35. Opening to Polyamory with Jessica Esfandiary from Open Late Apr 19, 2023
- 34. Managing Two Partners and Building Community with Jenny & Kris (Part 2)Apr 12, 2023
- 33. Open From the Get Go with Jenny & Kris (Part 1)Apr 12, 2023
- 32. Letting Go of Shame with Philip from Dear Poly Apr 5, 2023
- 31. Healing Sexual Trauma with Jess & Zach from Sacred ShipsMar 29, 2023
- 30. Being Solo Poly in a Long Term Relationship with Taylor and AlanMar 22, 2023
- Monocurious E3 - Tory & Jackson: The Power of Non-sexual Intimacy Feb 1, 2023
- Monocurious E2 - Tory & Ava: Looking for Partnership in the Dating App EraJan 25, 2023
- Monocurious E1 - Sue & Jon "A Floating Island of Monogamy in a Sea of Fluidity"Jan 18, 2023
- 25. Best Friends Open to Play and An Update on Our Relationships with Mariah & Fer (Season 2 Finale)Jun 28, 2022
- 24. Growing From Polyamory with Ari & JeshuaJun 15, 2022
- 23. Forming a Triad and Decoupling with Marcela the HypnoqueenJun 2, 2022
- 22. Intimacy, Mental Health and Communicating Desires with Valentin (Awake and Sexy)May 18, 2022
- 21. When your Type of Non-Monogamy is Different from your Partner'sApr 28, 2022
- 20. Unlearning Monogamy with Carol & DavidApr 20, 2022
- 19. Gaslighting & Manipulation in Non-Monogamy with Rachel KrantzApr 6, 2022
- 18. Being Solo Poly and Dating a Couple with LondonMar 23, 2022
- 17. Flirting as a Team with Jasmine & FelipeMar 16, 2022
- 16. Dating as a Newly Queer Person and NRE with Queer Dating Coach Ariella SerurMar 8, 2022
- 14. Broken Up But Still Together with Cookie & JerryFeb 24, 2022
- Bonus Episode - Bushwick Daily Feature Dec 3, 2021
- 13. Falling in Love with Your Secondary with Mariah (Season Finale)Jun 10, 2021
- 12. She is Open, He is Not with Fer & SethJun 3, 2021
- 11. Overcoming Insecurities with Ruth & AlejandroMay 26, 2021
- 10. Doubting Polyamory with Mr. KMay 19, 2021
- 9. Being in a Triad and Dealing with Jealousy with Anna & ChetanMay 12, 2021
- 8. Relationship Anarchy, Being a Poly Parent and Alternative Relationship Therapy with TarynnMay 5, 2021
- 7. Gender Roles in Non-monogamy with Ana & DustinApr 29, 2021
- 6. Facing Insecurities Head On with FrankieApr 22, 2021
- 5. Non-monogamous in Different Ways with S & JApr 14, 2021
- 4. Learning Compersion and Navigating Polyamory with Bear & Fifi (Part 2) Apr 8, 2021
- 3. Being Queer, Polyamorous and POC with Bear & Fifi (Part 1)Apr 1, 2021
- 2. Finding the Type of Relationship that Works for YOU with Dr.ZhanaMar 25, 2021
- 1. The Stigma of Non-monogamy with MariahMar 15, 2021
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