Polycurious
Hosted by Fer Fabian
Fer Fabian guides curious listeners through the world of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy with practical advice, lived experience, and real talk for couples opening up.
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Latest episodes (85 total)
82. Lessons From Building a Triad with The Kink Collective
Cat, Natalie, and Joshua from The Kink Collective talk about their experience building a triad.We talk about honesty and transparency in non monogamy, especially when telling the full truth feels scary because you’re worried about your…
81. When Your Partner Doesn't Want Non-monogamy with Courtney and Nate (the Mono-Poly couple)
When Courtney proposed opening their marriage on their 17th anniversary, their relationship was struggling. Nate was a devoted father and provider, but he had become emotionally distant. Courtney’s proposal was initially met with anger,…
Open to Open Panel Recording
In this special episode, I'm sharing a live recording from Open to Open, a panel discussion I joined in Denver hosted by coaches Bella Schauer and Booster Blake. We share our personal experiences and answer questions about New…
80. How To Process Jealousy and Difficult Emotions
In this solo episode, I'm sharing the emotional processing tool that's completely changed the way I handle difficult emotions. It's called RAIN, and while I didn't create it (it was popularized by meditation teacher Tara Brach), I've…
Opening Up Without The Mess (Meet-up)
What We CoverHow to know if your relationship is readyWhat to expect: jealousy, guilt & imbalanceCommon mistakes to avoidWhy you should move at the pace of the slowest partnerHow to handle jealousy Jealousy is normal and…
Bonus ep.79 Exploring Bisexuality as a Man
In this episode, Sam opens up about discovering his attraction to men later in life, what it was like having his first boyfriend, exploring sexual compatibility for the first time, and working through internalized shame around…
79. The Problem with NRE (New Relationship Energy) with Sam Charles
Sex and relationship coach Sam Charles joins me to explore the shadow side of New Relationship Energy: the nervous system rollercoaster. We also talk about the reasons he is no longer over-compromising in romantic relationships, and he…
78. Domming at a Sober Kink Party & My Daddy Issues
Today I share my experience unexpectedly domming someone for the very first time at a sober kink party, and how stepping into my dominant side helped me rethink my relationship with non-monogamy, begin to untangle some of my daddy issues…
77. Kink, Power Dynamics & Knowing When to Walk Away with Vee from Girls Gone Deep
Today, Vee from Girls Gone Deep shares her journey into kink, what makes a great dom, and what people can actually gain from exploring BDSM dynamics. We also dive into what it feels like to want a level of commitment your partner can’t…
76. I Said Yes to ENM But My Body Panics with Bella & Patrick
What if your head is on board with non-monogamy, but your body freaks out when your partner dates someone else?Today, Bella and Patrick, who started their relationship long-distance and non-monogamous, share how they learned to navigate…
75. Can You Learn Compersion? ft. Evolving Love Project
Abbey and Liam from the Evolving Love Project return to share more about their journey opening up their relationship. They unpack why fairness doesn’t always mean doing the same things, reflecting on Abbey dating solo for two years before…
74. Do This Before Opening Up with Nancy & Jonny
Nancy and Jonny spent months focusing on education, workshops, community, and strengthening their communication before taking their first steps into non-monogamy.In this episode, they share what that intentional process looked like, the…
