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Yes, I'm still Non-Monogamous

Fielding exhausting questions from family about your relationship style? Luna Rose shares how she keeps conversations grounded and her boundaries intact.

✦ BY LUNA ROSE

NOVEMBER 7, 2025

Photo by Jason Leung

I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in feeling tired and misunderstood when it comes to explaining my non-monogamy to family members. You might be thinking, "Shouldn't that be private?" And maybe for some people it is. But for me, sharing this feels important. Talking about my choice to live and love outside the norm feels like an essential part of normalizing non-monogamy and other ways of being in relationships. It helps broaden people's perspectives and fosters greater understanding and acceptance of lives that look different.

And, yes, it can feel exhausting. I can't tell you how many times I am peppered with questions that feel more sensationalist than anything else. Things like “Will you stop dating other people when you get married?” or “Won't that be weird for your kids?” The main way that I combat this is by bringing the conversation back to the fact that, for me, non-monogamy is a lifelong journey and decision to choose love over fear and freedom over control.

So, if you're on your own journey of non-monogamy and are being bombarded by questions like these, here are some tips I've developed to help:

Free subscribers: Behind the paywall, I’ve shared my personal tips for talking about non-monogamy with family, friends, or anyone who might have a hard time understanding it.

Coming out about non-monogamy and need support? Connect with an ENM-aware therapist or coach who can help you navigate difficult conversations. Find supportive communities where you can connect with others on similar journeys.

Yes, I'm still Non-Monogamous

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