Learn To Be Okay, With Not Being Okay (Yet)

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If you find yourself thinking, “How am I not okay with this yet???” in your first year of trying out non-monogamy for the first time, my top advice is to just be patient with yourself.

You’re not going to get anywhere shaming yourself or feelings that you’re having, but you might get a lot further by being curious and compassionate about your emotional state. Dealing with change is super hard and that is okay. Everyone has a different timeline for how long it takes for them to adjust to a new normal and grieve what used to be.

Polyamory can be hard, because doing unconventional things that mean you get judged by other people can be hard. Polyamory can be hard, because figuring out what you actually believe and separating that from what you’ve been taught that you should believe can be hard. But if polyamory is what you want, the temporary struggles make it all the more rewarding in the end.

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