Retire the DJ: Hand Play Tips, Lube & Hygiene for Swingers (Quickie)

Wicka wicka wicka... stop it. On this Beyond Monogamy quickie, Adam and Pris give your hands the attention they deserve. Fingers, palms, and knuckles may be the most underrated tools in the bedroom, and the most misused, because a whole lot of people learned their moves from porn. The swinger podcast for ethical non-monogamy covers what's going wrong, how to do it right, and the hygiene nobody wants to talk about but everybody needs to hear.

In this quickie:

• Retiring "the DJ" and the jackhammer myth: faster and harder isn't better
• Why so many women never say "I don't like that," and why you should
• Nerve endings live on the outside: read the body, not the porn script
• Pris on pH balance, sensitivity, and why unwashed hands ruin the mood
• Ladies, the shaft is not a stress ball: Adam's case for a gentle touch
• Lube is your friend, for everybody
• Anal play, fisting, and the curiosity that comes with both
• Hygiene 101: wash for 20 seconds, clean under your nails, no back-to-front cross contamination, and gloves are sexy
• Long nails, cuts, hangnails... and the bacon-wrapped jalapeño honeymoon horror story

The takeaway: speak up, guide your partner, and wash your hands, you dirty bastards.

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