Mismatched Sex Drives: When Stress, Meds & Menopause Hit

Is there such a thing as a "normal" sex drive? Nope. On this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about mismatched sex drives: the high, the low, and everything in between. Adam, the self-proclaimed every-single-day guy, opens up about a recent slowdown in his libido, while Pris, a lifelong take-it-or-leave-it, explains why talking about sex doesn't flip her switch and why cuddles sometimes beat the main event.

Whether you're in the swinger lifestyle, practicing ethical non-monogamy (ENM), or totally monogamous, libido mismatch isn't a lifestyle problem. It's a human one. And this swinger podcast proves the fix starts with one honest conversation.

In this episode:

• Why there's no "normal" number when it comes to sex drive
• How new medications, menopause, and hormones can shift desire
• Stress, sleep, weight, and body image as libido killers
• Why cuddling can feel safer than sex when life gets heavy
• Masturbation for dopamine vs. sex with a partner: the "whole dance"
• The fear of a low-libido season becoming the new normal
• "If one is down, pick up the other": who initiates when desire dips
• Adam's on-air accountability pledge (comment and ask if he got up and walked!)
• When to talk to your partner, your doctor, or a therapist

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