JEALOUSY & COMPERSION
Jealousy: Our Over-Protective Friend
The goal in non-monogamy isn't to deal with jealousy — it's to befriend it. An ENM coach explains what it means to build a real relationship with your.
Since becoming an alternative relationship coach, the number one question I’m asked is - “How do you deal with jealousy?”
To that I say - you’re looking at jealousy all wrong. The goal isn’t to “deal with” jealousy, but to make friends with jealousy - which I’ll refer to as our “protective friend”. And I mean this literally - that we need to build a healthy relationship with our protective friend, exactly like we build healthy relationships with others in our lives. We need to get to know our protective friend; what situations they may be triggered in, and what makes them feel better when they’re overwhelmed. And once you’ve established more comfort and trust with your protective friend, you might begin to build a deeper relationship; getting to know your friend’s history, pivotal life experiences, and their family background, so you can begin to understand why they are the way they are.
Original Post: Nicole Sonnefeldt
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