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Playing With Fire

Hosted by Joli Hamilton

  • Compersion
  • Jealousy
  • Research

Researcher, relationship coach, and TED speaker Joli Hamilton explores compersion, jealousy, and the science of non-monogamy with co-host Ken Hamilton.

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Latest episodes (268 total)

  1. Oct 31, 202648m

    263 Creative, Conscious, Chosen Monogamy

    Choosing monogamy on purpose is very different from defaulting, or being forced, into it. So what does it actually take to choose monogamy with real agency? This is we call creative monogamy: a relationship built around monogamy but…

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  2. Oct 24, 202640m

    262 My Partner Isn’t as Excited as I Am: Asymmetry in the Opening Process

    Opening a relationship rarely involves both people feeling the exact same level of excitement at all times. And that asymmetry in energy, enthusiasm, readiness, and initiative can bring up a whole host of confusing questions and…

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  3. Oct 17, 202658m

    261 Can You Love More Than One Person and Still Feel Secure? Love, Grief, and Growth with Lunarosa Peralta

    When your partner falls in love with someone else, becomes a parent, or moves through profound grief during a breakup, you witness a transformation that has nothing to do with you. Except, as a witness, it also has the potential to affect…

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  4. Oct 10, 202639m

    260 ‘I feel seen… but not by you’ – Metamours, Jealousy, and Differentiation

    Have you ever wondered what your partner looks like through someone else's eyes? It's a question that can bring up a swirl of emotions—curiosity, insecurity, excitement, maybe even panic. But what if that willingness to wonder is actually…

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  5. Oct 3, 202655m

    259 Getting Unstuck: How a Frozen Imagination Blocks the Relationship You Want

    What if the thing that’s really stopping you from changing your relationships isn’t a lack of motivation or willpower, but a frozen imagination? We all hold internal representations of ourselves, our partners, and our relationships in our…

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  6. Sep 26, 202633m

    258 Patterns of Harm Need Patterns of Repair: Rethinking Closure

    Ever feel like you're having the same conversation about the same hurt over and over again? Yeah, we’ve been there. And the surprising thing is… that's not necessarily a problem.We just did an episode on conflict and how it can actually…

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  7. Sep 19, 202651m

    257 Conflict as Growth: Deepening Intimacy through Disagreement

    When we see conflict as a red flag, we pave the way for dishonest ‘peace,’ people pleasing (where no one is actually pleased at all), and emotional walls that try to protect us but end up leaving us isolated and disconnected.The truth is…

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  8. Sep 12, 202649m

    256 Leaving High-Demand Religion and Exploring Non-Monogamy with Natasha Helfer

    Leaving high-demand religion isn't just about changing your Sunday morning schedule. It’s about deconstructing a belief system that touches everything in your life. And when you start pulling on this thread, you might find yourself…

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  9. Sep 5, 202649m

    255 When should we start making agreements in NEW relationships?

    Here’s a question we get a lot – at what point in a new relationship should you start making agreements? The answer might surprise you: you already are. From the moment you decide where to meet for a first date, you're making agreements.…

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  10. Aug 29, 20261h 5m

    254 How to Figure Out What You Want and Need: An Insider’s Experience of YOO

    Figuring out what your wants and needs might sound simple, but it’s often… really not.To help you navigate this question, we’re bringing you a super special episode in a never-before-seen (and possibly never to be seen again!) format.…

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  11. Aug 15, 202643m

    253 The Shadow of Compersion

    Compersion – feeling joy for another person’s joy – is a beautiful thing, especially when it comes to non-monogamy. But, like anything that’s bright and shiny, there’s a shadow side to compersion, and we’ve seen it become a stumbling…

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  12. Aug 1, 20261h 15m

    252 Triad Life in a World of Couples with Margo, Jody & Chris

    Relationships are messy, and when you re-imagine life with three instead of two, well, let's just say the complexity multiplies in ways you might not expect, even if you've been practicing non-monogamy for decades. So what does it…

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