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After 17 years of marriage, Courtney Boyer asked her husband a terrifying question: what if we opened the marriage? She discovered she was polyamorous — he wasn't. He's still monogamous. And they're still together.

Courtney joins Marcela to talk about what really happens when one partner opens a marriage the other didn't ask for. How do you tell your husband of 17 years you need something he doesn't? What does a mono-poly marriage actually look like day to day? And where does purity culture fit into all of it?

Raw, honest, and full of the conversations most couples are too scared to have.

**About Courtney:**

Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a relationship and sexuality expert, former therapist, and the author of *Not Tonight, Honey* and her memoir *Opened*. She helps people question the relationship rules they inherited, reconnect with their desire, and build lives that actually feel like their own. A polyamorous mother of three in a mono-poly marriage, she has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and CNBC.

Connect with Courtney: courtneyboyercoaching.com | Instagram: @courtneyboyercoaching

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