Polyamory Requires Effort. Duh.

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Some people like the IDEA of polyamory more than the EFFORT it takes to actually maintain multiple relationships.

Don't get so caught up in the idea of being in a polyamorous relationship that you lose sight of the people that you're with. Similarly, be wary of people who overly idealise a specific vision of polyamory and try to force you into a role you didn't sign up for.

Some of you aren't going to like this one but it's time for a hard truth. The reality of polyamory is often very different from one's expectations. We can talk about compersion and community and all that sunshine-and-rainbows stuff all day. But at the end of the day relationships take work and MULTIPLE relationships usually take MORE work.

If you're ignoring that work, you're putting all that labour onto the people around you while you live in fantasy, which isn't fair or loving to them. Remember it's all about communication and consent - and that stuff requires effort from everyone involved.

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