Polyamory Doesn’t Mean You Have To Settle For Less

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I don't know who needs to hear this, but polyamory doesn't mean you have to settle for less time, energy, and commitment. Your partner having other partners isn't a reason to sacrifice what you need to feel loved and valued in a relationship. You deserve to have your needs met by people who are happy, willing, and able to meet them.

The following two things can be true AND you’re allowed to expect both:

1. polyamory allows for more fluid, flexible relationships

2. you are allowed to have expectations in your connections that, if they are not met, mean the relationship isn't worth it *for you*.

For example, if you're specifically looking for a partner to go on weekly dates with, and you know that consistent in-person quality time is important to you to feel connected in a relationship. Then don't invest all your time into trying to make things work with someone who can only see you once every few months and who you therefore feel emotionally disconnected from.

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