Jealousy isn't a Red Flag - It’s How You Deal With It

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Jealousy is not a red flag. But you know what could be?

• pretending you don't feel it when you do🚩

• shaming yourself instead of confronting why🚩

• not taking responsibility for managing it🚩

• hiding your jealousy from a partner🚩

• not asking for (reasonable) support with it🚩

There is no such thing as a 'wrong' emotion feelings just ARE. The real question is: what are you going to DO about it?

Demonising jealousy helps no one in the polyamorous community! If anything, it makes people feel even more isolated than they already are and misunderstood in their emotional experience. I don't believe that any emotion is inherently 'evil' or 'bad', and that it should be used as an opportunity to connect with yourself and your needs, as well as to communicate with your partner(s). It's central to the work that I do with my peer support clients, who experience jealousy for all kinds of valid reasons. This is where the work begins. You will be okay.

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